Happier, calmer, more joyous children.

Perhaps you are often frustrated because your children, who have so much, are still so discontent

The children are discontent because very often they have everything except what they most need.

Children thrive on the reliability of consistency, without it they become fractious and discontent.

Physical order and reliable routines create the security which is necessary for the child's well-being.

A calm home nurtures the child as it meets the developing child's need for order and simple reliability.

Simplify your life and enjoy the results, your child certainly will.

Simple isn't always easy, to make the transition contact Paulene Richardson here.

Change your life, buy a coat rack!

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Something as simple as a basic coat rack can have a profoundly positive effect on your family life.

Really? 

Yes, really!

Here’s why:

As you enter the house, remove outdoor shoes and clothing and place them on the hall-stand. By doing this you will know exactly where to find these same items when you need to leave the house again.

Add baskets to the stand to store smaller items like hats, gloves and sunscreen.

It's so simple and helps create organised reliable order which is so important to the young child.

Establish simple routines

Establishing simple routines like this saves precious time and more importantly, avoids a great deal of stress.

The seat on the stand makes it easier for your little one to put on and take off their shoes and so helps them in their drive for independence.  If your coat rack doesn’t have a seat buy a low stool.

Demonstrate each skill

Demonstrate each skill (e.g. hanging up a jacket) at a neutral time when you're not busy or time restrained and the child is free to practise at will.

Children enjoy mastering new tasks it builds their sense of competence.

Other forms of storage

You can, of course, use other forms of storage such as baskets or simple plastic tubs and a low stool in place of a hall-stand with a seat.

Whatever you choose it’s creating the routine that will make the difference.

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Your kids are bored? Fantastic!


It's the second week of the school holidays, the weather is lovely yet your kids are irritable because they are bored, fantastic!


Psychologists and child behaviourists tell us boredom is good for kids as it encourages creativity whereas constant entertainment breeds irritability and restlessness under the law of diminishing returns. 
If you would like your child to develop their own creative interests they need the time and space to do just that.

Of course at first it won't be comfortable for them (or you)  if they are unfamiliar with the sensations and used to someone / something else creating a distraction. 

"I'm bored"


"I'm bored" are words that seem to strike fear into the hearts of many parents who then try to solve the 'problem' by suggesting all kinds of things, arranging yet another outing or allowing yet more screen time. 


Stop! 


This is a vital life lesson for your child. Boredom is not something to be feared, rather it is an opportunity, an opening into another world; the world of thoughts, of ideas, of quiet contemplation, the world of decision making.  


It is also about responsibility, about who is in charge of your child's feelings.  


So when your hear "I'm bored" instead of providing a list of suggestions, try something different such as "OK, what would you like to do about that?"

As that is an opened ended question you might have to put in qualifications such as " remember we are having an at home day today" or "Remember today we're having a screen free day".

At first there will likely be lots of complaining and even anger if the child is used to being constantly entertained. Here is where you stay calm and just hand the situation back to child.

"OK I hear you're bored, perhaps you can think about what you're going to do". Don't at this stage give in and start making suggestions such as "You've got all that Lego you could make something, or there's lots of craft material what could you make....."

Allow your child to sit with their feelings

Allow your child to sit with their feelings and decide what they will do about them, and yes it may be a very long day. If you are able to do this you will clearly demonstrate to your child you believe they can solve the 'problem' at hand. 


Changing patterns of behaviour is not easy for children or adults so be patient and keep your focus on the end goal. A child who is able to draw on their creative instincts and who has a wide range of interests and activities is in a position of strength. 

 Space and quiet time


 Space and quiet time will give your child the opportunity to develop the skill of listening to themselves, of finding their creative instincts and interests.

In the modern 24 hour electronic world quiet space can be hard to find.  

There's a great deal of money to be made out of convincing parents that children need constant entertainment, so this school holidays try something different, stick with quiet time for a few days and enjoy the results.  
 

The weekend is here and you have an active toddler

Have you noticed how toddlers LOVE big work!

The bigger and heavier the better, the greater the stretch, the steeper the slope the greater the attraction. Small children love testing their strength.

The weekend is here and you have an active toddler

I remembered reading, ages ago, about ways for toddlers to use their developing bodies and abundant energy, so decided to write a short list to get you started.

Ways toddlers can exert maximum effort 

Here are a few to begin with:

  1. Carrying round a large bag or backpack

  2. Using large foam blocks (the Melbourne Museum Children's Gallery has fantastic large blocks)

  3. Carrying wood

  4. Walking over pillows

  5. Move a bucket or watering can of water

  6. Pushing or carrying a loaded laundry basket

  7. Lift a large(ish) suitcase with some weight in it

  8. Move a piece of furniture

  9. Taking the largest steps possible (stepping stones)

  10. Carrying a large box

  11. Digging and filling a bucket with sand then moving that to a new location .....

I hope you find several ideas which help to make the weekend even more enjoyable for you and your toddler.

I’d love to see your ideas and photos, inspire others by posting them on my Facebook page

A precious gift for your child

Give your child the precious gift of a wonderful start in life by creating a stimulating Montessori-inspired home learning environment.

You won’t need to buy lots of special expensive materials, though it may influence the toys you buy, and it’s not homeschooling.

Research indicates that children of all academic abilities show positive skills and behaviours when learning using the Montessori-inspired approach, including:

  • problem-solving skills

  • concentration

  • independence

  • creativity

  • initiative

  • social cognition (emotional intelligence)

  • a life long love of learning

Qualities which are valuable in every area of life.

A truly beautiful and precious gift which will last a lifetime.

Take the first step.