School holidays and your kids are bored? Fantastic!

It's the school holidays, the weather is wintry and your kids are irritable because they are bored, fantastic!

 Psychologists and child behaviourists tell us boredom is good for kids as it encourages creativity whereas constant entertainment breeds irritability and restlessness under the law of diminishing returns. 

If you would like your child to develop their own creative interests they need the time and space to do just that.

Of course at first it won't be comfortable for them (or you)  if they are unfamiliar with the sensations and used to someone / something else creating a distraction. 

"I'm bored" are words that seem to strike fear into the hearts of many parents who then try to solve the 'problem' by suggesting all kinds of things, arranging yet another outing or allowing yet more screen time. 

Stop! Boredom is not something to be feared

This is a vital life lesson for your child. Boredom is not something to be feared, rather it is an opportunity, an opening into another world; the world of thoughts, of ideas, of quiet contemplation, the world of decision making.  
It is also about responsibility, about who is in charge of your child's feelings.  

Sit with their feelings

Allow your child to sit with their feelings and decide what they will do about them, and yes it may be a very long day.

If you are able to do this you will clearly demonstrate to your child you believe they can solve the 'problem' at hand. 

Changing patterns of behaviour is not easy for children or adults so be patient and keep your focus on the end goal.

A child who is able to draw on their creative instincts and who has a wide range of interests and activities is in a position of strength. 

Space and quiet time will give your child the opportunity to develop the skill of listening to themselves, of finding their creative instincts and interests.

Try something different

So when your hear "I'm bored" instead of providing a list of suggestions, try something different such as "OK, what would you like to do about that?"

As that is an opened ended question you might have to put in qualifications such as " remember we are having an at home day today" or "Remember today we're having a screen free day".

At first there will likely be lots of complaining and even anger if the child is used to being constantly entertained.

Here is where you stay calm and just hand the situation back to child. "OK I hear you're bored, perhaps you can think about what you're going to do". Don't at this stage give in and start making suggestions such as "You've got all that Lego you could make something, or there's lots of craft material what could you make....."

Quiet space can be hard to find

In the modern 24 hour electronic world quiet space can be hard to find,  there's a great deal of money to be made out of convincing parents that children need constant entertainment so this school holidays try something different, stick with quiet time for a few days and enjoy the results.  

Happier, calmer, more joyous children.

Children thrive on the reliability of consistency, without it they become fractious and discontent.

Physical order and reliable routines create the security which is necessary for a child's well-being.

A calm home nurtures the child as it meets the developing child's need for order and simple reliability.

Simplify your life and enjoy the results, your child certainly will.

Simple isn't always easy, to make the transition contact Paulene Richardson here.

Do you find parenting more complex than you ever imagined?

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Parenting, it all seemed so straightforward in theory and everyone else is doing so well according to the picture perfect families on social media.

The reality is that many (most?) people find that everyday parenting of young children is far more complex and challenging than they ever imagined.

When this happens parents can become stressed, anxious, disappointed in themselves and their parenting, unsure about where to turn or what else to do.

If that describes you, does it mean you’re a bad parent?

No it does not, quite the opposite.

What it means is you don’t yet have all the knowledge, skills or the support you need to parent your child in the way you would like to.

Here’s something which may help.

Throughout my website I talk about how important it is to meet the developmental needs of your child and people often ask me,

What are the key developmental needs of my 2-6 year old?

They are:

  • Sensory exploration

  • Language

  • Order

  • Movement (fine and gross)

  • Social skills

  • Independence

Misunderstandings and mismatched expectations lead to frustration and unhappiness, for both parent and child.

Would you like to know more about realistic expectations and how to meet the key developmental needs your little one? Click one of the buttons below.

A precious gift for your child

Give your child the precious gift of a wonderful start in life by creating a stimulating Montessori-inspired home learning environment.

You won’t need to buy lots of special expensive materials, though it may influence the toys you buy, and it’s not homeschooling.

Research indicates that children of all academic abilities show positive skills and behaviours when learning using the Montessori-inspired approach, including:

  • problem-solving skills

  • concentration

  • independence

  • creativity

  • initiative

  • social cognition (emotional intelligence)

  • a life long love of learning

Qualities which are valuable in every area of life.

A truly beautiful and precious gift which will last a lifetime.

Take the first step.